He said She said

Well this has been a crazy few days, so everyone at one time or another has had people talk shit about them and most people have talked shit about someone else. We all do it and I doubt it will ever stop any time soon. The thing I hate is when you know someone is spreading lies about you but you can't find the source, it's just he said she said..... you never really know who to believe because this person is saying they heard it from so and so and that person heard it from someone else and it goes on and on. Normally your never going to find out the truth especially when it's all from people you can't really 100 percent trust. Yesterday I got a message from an ex-boyfriend's girlfriend well wife. I don't really know her, we've never really met but back around the time I dated the guy me and her didn't get along to well and that's common between girls who date the same guy. Well I didn't date him long and once we broke up I didn't really talk or see him, this was back in 2005. Well she hit me up saying that she heard from someone that they said my ex (her husband) was the father of my child. Now this is far from the truth seeing has how haven't been no where near this guy in 6 years and I know who the father of my child is. So she knew it wasn't true, I knew it wasn't true but we both wanted to know who started this. Neither of us want it going around because it makes both us look bad. This is something so retarded that it's hard to believe. We don't know if someone is trying to start shit between me and her, or her and him or just bad mouthing me. So we tried tracking the source and it just keeps going on... he said she said. Now I'm not gonna let this bother me too much because I know it's not true and the people that love and care about me would not believe this bull shit but why can't people own up to what they say. If you said it own up to it. I have talked plenty of shit before about people but everything I have said I would own up to it and more likely say it to that person's face. Now that I'm older I don't really talk that much shit about random bull shit and if I'm talking shit there's a good reason behind it but I'm  25, I'm tired of the high school he said she said. So can we all do our selves a favor and if you don't like someone and have the opportunity to talk shit them make sure you can own up to it and that you would say it to that person's face. Another thing, I think the person, whoever the source is said this thinking that because I don't talk to this guy anymore nor do I hang out with people he knows that this wouldn't get back to me, so next time just keep your mouth shut. I know it has to be someone from my past because the people I hang out with now don't even know who he is. But my message is, don't say it if you can't own it.